On Healing: Why It Isn't About Being Fixed
We live in a world that teaches us to see ourselves as broken. A world where harm is institutionalized, disconnection is engineered, and we are expected to endure rather than to thrive.
I was working with an elder client recently, and she said to me, "If I could just sit here and learn why my brain does this, maybe it would help in my relationships. I just want to be fixed." It broke my heart. Here was someone who has been on this earth for many decades, still holding that there's something that needs to be fixed within her so she can receive love.
But what if wholeness was never lost? What if it is something we remember, not something we must earn?
What Does It Mean to Heal?
Healing is not about fixing or curing. It is about embracing. I think of it like a river and its riverbed. The river is you: your energy, your emotions, your life force flowing. The riverbed is the structure, the understanding, the support you put in place to guide that flow. Without the riverbed, the river floods, overwhelms, loses its way. But with it, the river moves with purpose, with beauty, with power.
True healing comes through the integration of all parts of ourselves, allowing us to move from fragmentation to wholeness. It is a process of understanding, befriending, and learning to live with all aspects of our experience, not because something is wrong with us that needs correction, but because we deserve to understand our own design with compassion.
This is how we transform our relationship with ourselves, from one that may have been unhealthy or even abusive to one that is rooted in self-love, compassion, and freedom. Healing is about reaching a place where we can share our stories, if we choose to, without over-identifying with our pain or our conditions. It is about recognizing that while our experiences shape us, they do not define us.
To heal is to give yourself the care you need. It is giving yourself the kindness, patience, and forgiveness you deserve. It means creating your riverbed, putting structures in place that honor your needs and your truth. It means reparenting yourself, offering the care and love you may not have received as a child. It means seeking resources, whether that's therapy, coaching, books, or supportive communities, and actively practicing the skills that nurture your growth. Trust yourself. Offer yourself grace. Move forward with compassion.
How do you know you're on this path? Healing reveals itself in quiet ways: you respond instead of react, your inner world feels more spacious, connection becomes safe again. You recognize your sensitivity as a gift rather than a burden. Your boundaries serve you. You know what you need. These aren't destinations but signs that you're remembering, integrating, returning home. Read more about the signs of healing →
Healing is a lifelong unfolding, a return to yourself over and over again. Keep climbing. Once you reach a summit, behold the beauty of the next horizon. Each peak reveals deeper understanding, another step toward freedom, another remembering of the wholeness that was always yours.
You were never broken. You are remembering your way home.
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About the Author:
Joy is a prosperity guide, ecotherapist, and healing artist with 15+ years of experience. She founded Whole with Joy to support anyone seeking inner transformation through identity work, attachment healing, and embodied transformation. Joy integrates earth-based healing and indigenous healing practices into her work, centering intergenerational healing, personal and collective liberation.