Money as Mirror
It's mid-Scorpio season, the season that invites us to look deeply into the matters we typically avoid, bury, and repress. Which allows whatever we push down to haunt us and hold power over us.
This season reminds us of the power of facing what haunts us.
So today, I want to unpack one of the core themes of Scorpio: money.
Our relationship with money gives us great insight and a window into who we are—our values, our sense of self, our self-regulation skills, our self-esteem, our wounds, our inheritance, our relationship to the Earth and to community.
Most of us were never taught to be intimate with money, only afraid of it, ashamed of it, or performing with it. We learned to avoid looking at it directly, to let it haunt us from the shadows.
But what if we turned toward it instead?
What if we treated our relationship with money the way Scorpio season invites us to treat everything we've been avoiding with honesty, with courage, with a willingness to see what's really there?
Before we go deeper, I want to name something important:
Capitalism is designed to extract wealth from working people, and it does that even more violently to Black people, Indigenous people, and other marginalized communities. Redlining, wage theft, predatory lending, the racial wealth gap, these are real, structural barriers that no amount of individual mindset work can fix alone.
And those systems have also shaped how we relate to money internally. The shame, the scarcity patterns, the survival strategies, the ways we avoid looking at our money or spend impulsively or give it away when we need it, those are nervous system responses to living under oppression.
This reflection is about understanding what those systems have done to us internally, so we can heal those patterns and make more intentional choices with whatever resources we do have access to.
This is Money as Mirror: A Reflection Guide to support you on your journey into true prosperity. Not the kind of prosperity that's about accumulation or performance, but the kind rooted in wholeness, in right relationship, in stewardship.
Save this. Print it. Return to it. Notice what you want to skip over, that's usually where the medicine is.
Before We Begin:
Take a sacred pause & breathe...
What does your current bank account balance look like? (If you don't know, that's information too.)
What story does it tell about you and where you've been & gone through?
What feelings does this number bring up in your body?
Just notice with curiosity & compassion...
I. Intimacy & Relationship with Money
What is my intimacy with money? Do I know how it flows in my life, or do I avoid looking at it?
What is my attachment style with money? Secure, insecure (anxious, avoidant, disorganized—up and down, all over the place)?
How often do I spend time with my money—checking in, witnessing it, tending to it?
What do my spending habits say about my relationship to money, my emotions, and my unmet needs?
When I reach for spending, what season am I in emotionally?
Am I tired? Lonely? Craving pleasure? Trying to soothe?
What am I actually reaching for?
II. Wounds & Patterns
What are my money wounds?
What did I see growing up?
What is my family's money story? What patterns did I inherit?
How are these patterns still living in me, in my habits, and in the way I relate to abundance or scarcity?
III. Meaning & Identity
What does being rich or wealthy mean to me? And why?
What does being poor mean to me? And why?
Do I believe I am deserving of wealth? Why or why not?
What does being financially literate mean to me in practice, not just in theory?
How has money shaped my identity, my sense of worth, and my choices?
IV. Boundaries & Habits
What are my boundaries with money?
Are they porous (leaky, overgiving, overspending)?
Grounded and balanced (clear, intentional)?
Or rigid (tight, fearful, avoidant)?
Are my spending habits conscious, mindful, and grounded—or hasty, impulsive, and reactive?
Before I buy something, do I pause and ask why I want it? Is it a need? Is it an attempt to fill a wound?
Do I pause to notice how this purchase impacts the planet & other beings?
Do I pause to see whether this purchase feeds the same system designed to keep me in scarcity?
V. Stewardship & Vision
What needs to change within me to transform my relationship with money?
What beliefs, habits, patterns, or people am I willing to give up or outgrow to walk toward prosperity?
What does it mean to be a steward of my money?
What is my plan with money?
1-month intention
3-month objective
6-month alignment
12-month vision
5-year trajectory
long-term, legacy-based prosperity
How do I want money to feel in my body?
This is prosperity work. Real transformation happens when we tend to our actual relationship with money—the wounds, the patterns, the inherited stories, and the possibility of stewardship.
If these questions stirred something in you, if you're ready to move from performing prosperity to practicing it, from avoiding money to being in intimate relationship with it, I'd be honored to guide you.
This is the work I do. Guiding people as they heal their relationship with money, with Earth, with self, with legacy. Work with Me.
“The question is, who are you?”
If your spirit is calling you to look deeper...
Into your relationship with money, identity, and the attachments that shape how you move through the world...
If you're ready to remember who you truly are beneath survival, conditioning, and fear...
A sacred journey is coming.
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